Friendships are important for our life. They are the glue that binds together time and space shared with some meaning and purpose that I call relationship. In almost every culture on the planet, there is some importance placed on friendships and relationships. It serves the purpose for love, life, and coexistance, not only in primative cultures, but also in the modern world most of us live in today.
Friends are real when they tell you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear. That’s truth. They also believe in you, because they know you, and everything about you. My dad had this saying when he was alive, and it still rings true in my mind today: “Real friends know where all your skeletons are buried, because they hold the flashlight while you use the shovel, and vise-versa.” Agreed!
Real friends also help advance you and what you stand for because they know their future is tied to yours. I once wrote in another blog on friendship: “Your closest friends will help hold the telescope for you to see your future. Those who claim your friendship, but really aren’t, hold you under the microscope of the past, trying to stop you from achieving and realizing your dreams.” This is simply a matter of who’s for you, and who’s against you. And it’s true in every form of relationships you may have; i.e., family, close friends, business partners, church leadership team, etc.
Learn to recognize the difference. It’s easy to determine…just ask yourself: “Do they switch the light on with their personality and character (metaphorically), or do they switch the light off with their mere presence?” (another one of my father’s important life lessons for me) Only you can decide. Bottom line, our friendships and relationships are needed and necessary not only for our success, but for theirs as well. Key word is Coexist.
Finally, remember the wise words of King Solomon:
“A true friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17